Imagine walking into a room and impacting everyone with your presence. People immediately notice your magnetism; they like you, they trust you, they want to be guided by you. That's the effect of charismatic people: they impact those around them, they drive new projects, they change the world. Charisma is not a gift of birth: it is a skill that everyone can refine with practice. Olivia Fox Cabane has made the art of charisma her passion and her career, and shares the best tools to develop it in her book "Charisma Demystified". Charismatic behavior is made up of 3 essential elements: presence, power and cordiality. These 3 factors are conveyed by our appearance and our body language much more than by the words we use. We can therefore influence our charisma through both conscious and unconscious behaviors. Presence represents the degree of attention to the present moment. It often happens that we are distracted during our interactions with others. Even if we think we can fake it, very small aspects of our body language are immediately perceived by our interlocutor, and this has a very negative impact on our charisma. It is possible to develop this skill by practicing very deep attention for a minute, during which you can concentrate on the sounds around you, on your breathing, or on your bodily sensations. Power represents the degree to which we are perceived as capable of affecting the world around us. It is an ancestral reaction: in the very first seconds that we meet someone, we unconsciously evaluate their social position in relation to us. The impression of power that we transmit depends mainly on our physical appearance and our body language. We can increase our power by taking care of our style of dress and our body posture. Cordiality is goodwill towards others. Someone who is powerful but not cordial can impress without being perceived as charismatic. Conversely, someone who is cordial but without power can be perceived as pleasant, but not necessarily charismatic. It is possible to develop cordiality in three stages: first gratitude for what we have and what surrounds us, then compassion for others, and finally compassion for ourselves. According to the different possible combinations of presence, power and cordiality, it is possible to identify 4 different styles of charisma: • The focused: based on presence, it helps others feel listened to, understood. Examples of this charisma are Gandhi and Bill Gates. • The visionary: based on conviction, it inspires creativity and collaboration within a group. Examples of this charisma are Joan of Arc or Martin Luther King. • Kindness: based on attention to others. It allows the creation of emotional bonds and a safe zone. Examples of this charisma are the Dalai Lama and Mother Theresa. • Authority: Based primarily on confidence, it projects a strong ability to impact or influence others. Examples of this charisma are Winston Churchill and Michael Jordan. Experimenting with these elements will allow you to access different parts of your personality, to better express qualities that you already possess. The number of tools and exercises presented in the book "Charisma Demystified" is very, very large. In this video I was able to summarize only a very small part of them. What goals could you achieve with a greater ability to convince and resemble the people around you? How could you integrate exercises into your day to practice your presence, your power and your cordiality? Leave a comment below. Support Mind Parachutes and download the audio from this video: http://www.tipeee.com/mind-parachutes Mind map (the CGI at the end of the video): http://mindparachutes.com/mindcartes French book: https://amzn.to/2RTPfD2 English book: https://amzn.to/2CN9mZm Final music credit: Bensound (www.bensound.com)