Alfa-Bank is the best bank for business. Send all payments and transfers for business without commission https://alfa.me/aA9BKO How not to raise a victim? Good girl syndrome. Psychologist Larisa Surkova. In the wake of the Bishimbaev trial - • Women's courses and a new type of abusers. ... The case of Kuandyk Bishimbaev, who killed his beautiful wife Saltanat Nukenova, has once again brought the topic of domestic violence to the forefront and demonstrated as clearly as possible that dangerous relationships that can end in tragedy are possible in any environment: in a degraded one, in an average one, even in a very successful one. Why do people with extremely cruel attitudes towards others grow up in seemingly prosperous families? What is "developmental trauma"? What are the non-obvious signs of abusers that can help identify them at an early stage of a relationship? How do women's courses that promise to achieve personal happiness sometimes become the best preparation for abusive relationships? Clinical psychologist and neurorehabilitation specialist Daria Serebryakova will help us understand these difficult topics. 00:00:00 Advertising integration 00:00:10 In this episode 00:01:05 Why do we have a high tolerance for violence? 00:02:50 On the influence of desire marathons and mystical thinking 00:04:35 How does the story of an abusive relationship usually begin? 00:05:26 Hookah rap - legitimization of abuse in relationships? 00:06:36 Inflated expectations from life and everyday helplessness - what are the risks? 00:08:36 "Buddha-type education" - how do rapists grow up? 00:10:50 "Slipped up, it happens to everyone" 00:11:09 About the peculiarities of upbringing in families with nannies 00:14:15 What emotion gives rise to aggression? 00:16:07 500 thousand on the first date - what do women's courses teach? 00:18:36 The biggest fear of rich men 00:19:42 Advertising integration 00:20:37 How do tips from women's courses attract abusers? 00:23:09 Who becomes victims of abusers? 00:25:11 Why don't victims immediately leave aggressors? 00:26:56 Compliments from narcissists and ordinary men - what is the difference? 00:27:53 "He will improve with me" - is it real? 00:29:22 A situation in which the abuser has a chance to improve 00:30:45 Can a psychotherapist help an aggressor? 00:31:08 What kind of psychologist did Bishimbaev have? 00:32:10 Advertising integration 00:32:20 How do abusers behave with psychologists? 00:33:06 Sexual relations with a narcissist 00:34:04 Men's recommendations to have mistresses - what is behind this? 00:34:45 The aggressor's ideas about sex 00:38:05 Does an abuser always progress in violence? 00:39:14 How Bishimbaev's positions contributed to the increase of his aggression 00:40:50 About the maternal role and sincere attitude 00:42:59 What gives away an abuser at the initial stage 00:44:20 An ominous sign in a relationship 00:44:51 Why is there more violence in closed societies? 00:46:21 What kind of upbringing causes the strongest personality distortions? 00:48:25 Rough driving - a trait of an abuser? 00:49:02 The gap between dreams and reality - the consequences 00:51:50 Advertising integration 00:52:00 Why does the aggressor not want to let the victim go? 00:52:49 "Always in a relationship since school" - what are the consequences? 00:54:10 Does the abuser understand the value of the relationship with the victim? 00:55:57 Female abuse, what does it look like? 00:56:55 "The best man I gave birth to myself"? 00:58:29 Do wives beat their husbands? 01:00:52 Women's ideas about how much a man should earn 01:02:30 Potential victims of aggressors 01:04:00 About female solidarity 01:04:37 In the next issue Thank you for introducing us to Daria Serebryakova channel / @dianagin Daria Serebryakova's channel / @serebryakovaclinic Yulia Menshova's social networks Telegram: https://t.me/JuliaMenshovaJulia VK community: https://vk.com/samamenshova Rutube: https://rutube.ru/u/samamenshova Zen: https://dzen.ru/samamenshova Instagram*: / juliavmenshova *Instagram is owned by the American company Meta, which was recognized as extremist, banned in the Russian Federation #psychology #menshova #samamenshova