10% discount in Golden Apple when buying from 5000 rubles with the promo code SAMA* until November 6, have time to buy your favorite products https://goldapple.onelink.me/jLXC/nsi... *there are excluded brands Follow the link in the Samokat application: https://clck.ru/3EAJxG From August 31 to December 31, the online store has a promo code SAMA, which gives a discount of 150 rubles on any order from 800 rubles. Round up the cost of orders in Yandex services and help charitable foundations: https://clck.ru/3Dm6fk All parents without exception await the onset of adolescence with horror and longing. On the one hand, children grow up, and this is a normal and desirable course of life, on the other hand, they begin to distance themselves, be rude, often act impulsively, cannot concentrate on their studies, they have new companies and hobbies that do not always suit us. All this is so difficult for us that we rarely think about whether life is easy for teenagers themselves? What happens to their body at this moment, why are they constantly tired and do not want to do anything, and in general, do we treat them with due respect? Clinical and systemic family psychologist Olga Bochkova will help us understand these issues. Olga Bochkova's Safety Academy website: https://bochkova.academy/ Academy social networks: https://t.me/OlgaBochkovaAcademy https://vk.com/bochkova.academy 00:00 Advertisement 00:12 In this episode 01:13 Can you afford to be tactless with teenagers? 05:19 "You were invited by a stranger, would you go with him?" - about the "Safety Academy" 07:39 Advertising 09:20 Why do adults disrespect teenagers? 11:14 What time does adolescence end today? 13:50 Insecurity and shame: what happens to a teenager? 16:05 Why is it difficult for teenagers to predict the consequences of their actions? 17:55 Laziness or fatigue? 20:49 Why don't teenagers want to study? 21:34 Informal companies 22:43 Advertising 24:25 What is hidden behind the facade of teenage hobbies? 26:06 Do children need to be educated or supported? 26:59 Mess and unwillingness to communicate with parents 29:02 "Mom fought with me a lot" - Yulia about the mess in the room 30:45 Do you want your child to be afraid of you? 33:51 Is it important to teach a child to say "no"? 34:56 What to do if a teenager has become distant? 36:01 "My daughter and I are friends." Is that good? 38:23 How to define boundaries? 41:00 What is the planning horizon for teenagers? 42:37 Why are excellent students not always successful in life? 44:55 Failures in all subjects - what's the problem? 45:58 How to revive interest in studying? 48:42 Bad company, cigarettes and alcohol - what to do? 52:09 Addiction and dangerous environment - a marker of problems with parents? 55:16 Sexual safety. How to conduct sex education? 58:20 When to talk to a child about sex? 01:00:14 How to communicate on this topic with a teenager? 01:02:50 How to cope with the feeling that your child no longer needs you? 01:05:31 What books should parents of teenagers read? ???? A list of recommended literature for parents of teenagers from Olga Bochkova: ???? Alexander Neill, "Summerhill - Education by Freedom" ???? Evelyn Krone, "What is he even thinking? The Teenage Brain: A Time of Unique Opportunities" ???? Jean and Robert Bayard, "Your Restless Teenager" ???? Françoise Dolto, "On the Teenager's Side" ???? Irina Mlodik, "Modern Children and Their Unmodern Parents, or What Is So Difficult to Admit" ???? Irina Mlodik, "A Book for Imperfect Parents, or Life on a Free Theme" ???? Robert Mackenzie, "The Stubborn Child: How to Set Boundaries" ???? Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish, "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and How to Listen So Kids Will Talk" ???? Galina Momot, "Love Cannot Be Raised. Communicating with a Teenager. How?" ???? Nikita Karpov, "Damn Teenagers" ???? Vika Dmitrieva, "This is a teenager" ???? Olga Bochkareva, "I won't let myself be offended. True stories from Vita's life." The book is based on real stories of teenagers in a fiction format. 18+ Always relevant: ???? Yulia Borisovna Gippenreiter, "Communicating with a child. How?" ???? Yulia Borisovna Gippenreiter, "Continue communicating with a child. Like this?" ???? Yulia Borisovna Gippenreiter, "For parents: how to be a child?" Social networks of Julia Menshova Telegram: https://t.me/JuliaMenshovaJulia VK community: https://vk.com/samamenshova Rutube: https://rutube.ru/u/samamenshova Zen: https://dzen.ru/samamenshova #psychology #menshova #self-knowledge