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Psychology, emotions, relationships, self-esteem and many other topics in our workshop outlet. Visit now https://www.asirpsichologija.lt/video... More video answers on various topics can be found on our website https://www.asirpsichologija.lt/video... What skills are needed in a couple's relationship? It's a good point to call it a skill. It is common for us to learn languages, various other things in life, but when it comes to relationships, we should be born with it somehow already knowing it. Gestalt oriented psychotherapist Jovita Klevinskienė. Emotion regulation What I could single out and what I think would be important is emotion regulation. This means that even when emotions run high - I manage to maintain respect for others, but also respect for myself, without getting too low somewhere. It sounds easy, but for some people it's a real challenge in those situations. Talking About Differences Another skill is being able to talk about differences. It sounds simple as well, but when we have a different opinion with our partner, it's really not always easy. So you just need to talk and how I think, how you see. It's about keeping the conversation going when we still see things differently and being able to talk about it. This is definitely an important skill. Maintain interest Interest in each other. This can also be called a skill - to maintain interest in each other. Sometimes I hear people say that they are not interested in how their partner is doing at work, for example, that they are tired of listening. This is already such a philosophical question - if I am with another person, even if I might not be interested in someone somewhere, I can sometimes try to interest myself. Maybe I will ask anyway and try to interest myself in that story. It is important to maintain that desire to be interested, the desire that I am somewhat interested in how others live. The other side is how to be interesting and stay interesting. When the relationship is many years old, when we know everything about each other, sometimes it is quite easy to neglect in some sense. I'm no longer reading somewhere, I'm no longer interested, I'm no longer interesting to myself and to others. So you have to try and make it interesting for yourself, be interested in something, have interests, hobbies, have conversation topics where I can get involved. To be that interesting partner or partner yourself. It's easier for someone else to be interesting with me, if I'm interesting to myself, I'll have something interesting to discuss and so on. Then we can really hope that it will be easier for others to be interested.