Information regarding values ​​and times for online or in-person psychotherapy: WhatsApp 11 99787-4512 http://www.marisapsicologa.com.br/hor... In-person service: Rua Bela Cintra, 968 (near Av Paulista - Consolação Metro and Paulista Metro) Subscribe to this channel http://goo.gl/32B3B6 Become a member of the channel club: / psychologists in são paulo Free E-books http://www.marisapsicologa.com.br/mat... E-books already published OCD Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Personality Disorders. Depression. Psychological treatments. Anxiety. Panic. ADHD Attention deficit. Hypochondria. Schizophrenia. Anorexia. Obesity. Agoraphobia. Treatment for alcoholism. Self-esteem. Childhood anxiety. Shyness. Bournot. Premature Ejaculation. Overcoming the Pain of Separation. How to Maintain Sanity During Quarantine. Insomnia. Abandonment Neurosis. Join the group on Telegram: https://t.me/PsicologosemSP Facebook Psychologists in São Paulo https://goo.gl/zXlX3C Instagram @Psicologoemsaopaulo https://goo.gl/CZjlZe Twitter @psicologomarisa / psicologomarisa Like our page on Google My Business: https://g.page/Psicologosemsaopaulo/r... Marisa de Abreu Psychologist CRP 06/29493 _________________________________________ 5 signs that it's not love, it's convenience IS IT LOVE OR CONVENIENCE? How many situations have we come across in life where someone declares total dissatisfaction with their relationship or partner but remains by that person's side because they believe that "despite everything that is said, done or not done in the case of absences, there is love. We know the traditional relationships of convenience, where there is no doubt and often no dissatisfaction knowing that the person you are with does not have love as the main ingredient. Often, awareness is part of an agreement, which is sometimes even verbalized, that they are together because each party in this couple offers something that is very valuable to the other. Sometimes what is offered is money, other times it is status, beauty, extroversion, social inclusion, emotional or even physical security, or simply company at home. When there is agreement between the parties, there is no problem at all, because there is no suffering, lies, or emotional wear and tear. However, when one of the parties is in love and the other stays in the relationship without offering the same feelings, but stays there because he or she needs the other, materially or emotionally, and makes him or her believe that there is love, what really exists is great emotional irresponsibility. And if it is not love, what makes this person stay by the other's side? Convenience. In each situation there will be a reason that we can perceive through some signs. I have listed what I considered the 5 most common: 1- Emotional support. They like to know that there is someone available by their side, that if one day they need help or support, this person is already “reserved”. They like to have someone who likes them, who makes them feel validated as a human being. 2- Material support. They like to have someone who is dedicated, who takes care of them, who works inside or outside the house and who does things for them. 3- Social inclusion. The other person is the one who has ideas for social activities, is the one who offers the possibility of enjoying parties because they are outgoing, introduces them to people, facilitates conversations. It could also be someone whose status elevates him in the social circle. 4- Someone who prevents him from dealing with his own loneliness, who “takes up” enough space and “makes enough noise” so that he doesn’t have to deal with his inner ghosts. 5- Someone who allows his dysfunctional personality to continue to manifest itself, someone who accepts him and doesn’t show him the need to change, someone who perhaps confuses jealousy with love, who considers that just that act wasn’t that bad, that he can handle it. And with that, he has arguments for himself, and perhaps even for others, that nothing he’s doing is that bad.