For centuries it was common for relatives to be cared for at home, especially by women. Today, this is hardly possible alongside a job and family. Despite this, many parents still expect their children to look after them when they grow old. They definitely don't want to go into a home. But do we owe this to our parents? How far do our obligations go? And when should we go against their wishes? The filmmaker Georg Wieghaus has investigated these questions. He accompanied two families for over a year and sensitively documented their needs and worries, their pangs of conscience and exhaustion. Ulrike's parents were always fit and independent, even though they are already over 90. But then her mother falls, followed four weeks later by her father. Suddenly they need care and support. It's a shock for Ulrike - and a real test, because her husband has also been in need of care for ten years. Nevertheless, she wants to do everything she can to ensure that her sick parents can continue to live at home. At what cost? Christel did things differently. Ten years ago, her sick mother moved in with her. "It was a no-brainer for me to take her in," says Christel. She had no idea what this decision would mean. As a single mother with three children, the 52-year-old bank employee was often completely overwhelmed. Christel is now at the end of her strength. She hardly sleeps anymore, suffers from severe back pain and has given up her job. A solution is needed! ???? If you liked this video, give us a like! ______ ???? A film for people up close and personal by Georg Wieghaus. Camera: Sven Kiesche and Dieter Stürmer Editing: Huynh Trang Lam Sound: Maximilian Bartusch, Aljoscha Haupt and Ole Schmidt Music: Jens Hafemann Sound mix: Florian Ebrecht Speaker: Yvon Jansen Production management: Katja Sträter and Christian Wulf (WDR) Producers: Tanja Winkler and Renate Werner (WDR) Producers: Sarah Zierul and Thomas Weidenbach Editor: Angelika Wagner Production: Längengrad Filmproduktion © WDR 2022 This film was produced in 2022. All statements and facts correspond to the status at that time and have not been updated since then. ______ ???? More documentaries in the ARD Mediathek: https://1.ard.de/yt_doku?yt=d Other documentaries on the topic: ???? Legally supported in old age - Trapped in the system - • Legally supported in old age - Trapped... ???? I won't let you down, Mom! When children care for their parents - • I won't let you down, Mom! W... ???? A lot of heart for little pay? A week as a nurse - • A lot of heart for little pay? A week ... ???? Lonely dying: nursing homes and corona - • Lonely dying: nursing homes and corona... ???? Old age and dementia - A week in the Alzheimer's shared apartment - • Old age and dementia - A week in the ... ???? Abandoned parents: When children break off contact - • Abandoned parents: When children break off co... ???? Persistent vegetative state - The long road back to life - • Persistent vegetative state - The long road back to l... ______ #Care #Parents #WDRDoku #Children #Family