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Why can't you break up with a narcissist? Why is it hard to break up with a narcissist? In the video titled How to get rid of a narcissist, I will try to explain the following. Even the title of the video actually contains a subliminal message suggestion. You can't break up with a narcissist. This is probably the whole point; the suggestions we give ourselves. This is the biggest difference between you and a narcissist. They don't give themselves negative suggestions. Anyway, let's get to the main topic now. Let's list the reasons why you can't break up with a narcissist or the situations that make it difficult to break up with a narcissist. First of all, the narcissist probably convinced you that you can't do anything without them. The suggestions they've given so far must have worked, so you may really think you can't do anything without them. What you need to do to overcome this seems simple, give it a try. What would you say if a close friend of yours had the same characteristics as your spouse and said that they couldn't break up because they couldn't do it without them? Would you say, you're right, you can't leave them because they're great? Secondly, it is difficult to leave a narcissist because you have many bad memories with the narcissist and few good memories, but they were intense. Or so I guess. As we always say, a narcissist makes you experience both heaven and hell. While the pain you feel when he makes you experience hell will prevent you from breaking away from him, the memories he makes you experience heaven will prevent you from breaking away from him. To overcome this, I suggest you do the following. Score your level of satisfaction in this relationship between 0-10. And score your potential level of satisfaction outside of this relationship (when you are alone or with someone else) between 0-10. If the first score is high and the second is low, you will stay in this relationship anyway. But if you are with a narcissist, the first is low and the second is high. The worst case scenario is that both are low. Then I suggest you get help from an expert. If both are high, I don't know how you did it, but continue like this :) Thirdly, the thing that will make it harder for you to leave a narcissist is that you worry about what the narcissist will do to you and those around you after you leave. There are two scenarios after breaking up with a narcissist whose empathy and compassion are less mature than a healthy person. Either he does nothing to show you that he doesn't care about this breakup when he breaks up with you, or he takes the pain of losing you out on you. I can recommend a good movie about this. Although the character Devran in the movie Kabadayı, who also has an antisocial nature, is a narcissist and has antisocial characteristics.