FYI: This film is about various forms of sexual violence and their consequences, such as addiction, dissociation and suicide attempts. For many people, intimate physical contact is something very beautiful - being close to your partner, discovering yourself and others, trying new things. People who have experienced sexual violence often do not feel this way. They often struggle with problems for years afterwards. Trauma, compulsions and dissociation arise - and the topic of togetherness is not something exciting for many, but is primarily associated with incredible fear. Many of those affected do not dare to communicate their own boundaries and say "No!" In this film, Frank speaks to Steffi - she had to experience such a trauma in childhood and developed a masturbation addiction as a result. Frank wants to know from Steffi and other survivors: What happens to us when we become victims of abuse? In order to put this sensitive topic into context, Frank also speaks to the scientist Dr. med. Melanie Büttner. (Instagram: @melaniebuettner1 ) Have you also experienced trauma or are you in a toxic relationship? Here you can find information, advice and help. You are not alone!! Helpline for women: https://www.hilfetelefon.de/ Helpline for men: https://www.maennerhilfetelefon.de/ Telephone counseling: https://www.telefonseelsorge.de 00:00 - 01:02 Welcome 01:02 - 03:00 Masturbation compulsion after abuse 03:00 - 04:06 Expert on masturbation addiction 04:06 - 06:13 Consequences of abuse 06:13 - 09:08 The first time after abuse 09:08 - 10:15 Therapy after abuse 10:15 - 12:09 Feelings of guilt after sexual violence 12:09 - 13:20 Expressing boundaries after experiencing violence 13:20 - 15:05 Violence in a toxic relationship 15:05 -16:41 Consequences of a toxic relationship 16:41 - 17:14 No means no! 17:14 - 19:07 Talking about trauma Episode 5 of the question: How does sexuality determine our lives? Here is the playlist with all episodes: • How does sexuality determine my life? If you want to find out more about Frank - here is the link to his Instagram account: / f_cybert Reporter: Frank Seibert Author: Samira Schütz Camera: Gregor Simbruner Editing: Robert Stöger / Markus Valley Community Management: Kim Stoppert / Katharina Geschier Editor: Teresa Fries Director: Florian Meyer-Hawranek This is The Question: There are these big, tricky questions that have no easy answers: Why do we bully? Why do we let animals suffer? Do we drink too much? Or: What does porn do to us? My team and I are interested in questions that have something directly to do with our lives, but also topics that are important to all of us and are often only discussed superficially. We look for answers to these questions, week after week - openly, honestly and independently. We don't meet any experts, we are there: at the slaughterhouse, at the swingers party, while proselytizing in the pedestrian zone. And because we want to get to know as many perspectives as possible in our search, we always spend several weeks on a question. In the end, we want to give an answer, even if it isn't easy for us. With each video - but especially in the discussions with you - we get a little closer to answering the big, tricky questions. The question on Facebook: / diefrage The question on Instagram: / diefrage_offiziell ──────────────────────────── YEAH! We are also part of #funk. Check it out: YouTube: / funkofficial WebApp: https://go.funk.net Facebook: / funk Instagram: / funk https://go.funk.net/impressum funk is a joint offering of the Association of Broadcasting Corporations of the Federal Republic of Germany (ARD) and the Second German Television (ZDF).