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Avoidant attachment leads to quick and negative judgments. With avoidant attachment, you sabotage the constructive relationship by focusing on small imperfections of the partner. In this video, Liselotte explains the different attachment styles and the difference between fear of commitment and fear of abandonment. She also gives you tips on how to deal with this in order to build a safe and trusted relationship. 00:00 Intro 00:47 Practical example 02:22 Attachment problems 05:16 Insecure attachment styles 07:01 Activation & deactivation strategies 10:48 Practical situation 12:24 Advice Sources: Cognitive behavioral therapy. Application in clinical practice. Scott, Michael J, Stradling, SG, Drijden, W. Swets & Zeitlinger Publishers, 1998. Mikulincer, M., Shaver, PR, Bar-on, DN, Ein-Dor, T. (2010). The pushes and pulls of close relationships: Attachment insecurities and relational ambivalence. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 98, 3, 450-468. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0017366 Mikulincer, M., Shaver, P. R. (2016). Attachment in adulthood. Structure, dynamics, and change. The Guilford Press, NY. Visser, L., Lataster, J., Pat-El, R., van Lankveld, J., & Jacobs, N. (2021). Psychometric Properties of Two Implicit Associations Tests measuring Adult Attachment. Psychologica Belgica, 61(1), 88–103. http://doi.org/10.5334/pb.1042 Do you want to be happy in love again? Then register with Mens en Relatie and experience the success of our successful, unique and personal relationship mediation: Relationship mediation is unique and personal at Mens en Relatie (mens-en-relatie.nl) #fear of commitment #fear of abandonment #avoidance #connection