The new episode of "Now It's Clear" features a conversation with Russian psychologist and specialist in family and crisis psychology Lyudmila Petranovskaya. She talks about why we experience shocks differently and how childhood experience influences this. Why do some leave while others stay? What survival and adaptation strategies did we inherit from our parents and grandparents? How can we survive crises and preserve ourselves? Watch the episode of "Now It's Clear", where Katya Artemenko and stand-up comedian Denis Chuzhoy discuss relationship problems: • About exes, relationship conflicts and ... Yasno service. Find a psychologist online and sign up for a consultation. 20% discount on your first session with the YOUTUBE promo code: https://yasno.live What this episode is about: 00:00 Introduction 1:20 "Childhood experience determines how we react in a stressful situation" 3:05 Meeting your past: what should you be prepared for? 8:00 "If a person emigrates and prepares for it for a year, he is in a better situation than when he heard the news in the morning, packed a backpack, and in the evening - on the plane" 8:53 Does the experience of trauma in the past help to survive traumatic events today? 11:50 "My husband was mobilized. Now I have to pull the children along." How family survival strategies work 14:17 How do we react to stress? About childhood, attachment theory and the army of Alexander the Great 28:28 "They just can't do this to me." About denial and naivety 31:02 "Pumping up emotional flooding." How to become a drama queen 35:57 Is there a maximally successful strategy for reacting to stress? 37:56 "Adapt to changes and preserve yourself." What to do during times of global upheaval? 39:49 "If we were all the same, humanity would not have survived." Why it’s for the best that we react differently to what’s happening in the world 43:11 “We’re stuck in the desire to be good and correct” 44:44 Where can we find support now and how can we deal with fear and loneliness? 46:30 “They’re canceling us, suspending us, they won’t forgive us.” Is this really important? 50:26 “This is a crime against the family.” About generational trauma and involved fathers 52:44 What can I do to fix myself? 56:25 Questions from the “Ok, Yasno” Telegram channel 56:51 “Is it possible not to love your parents? Or is it better to understand and forgive?” 1:01:31 “How can I get rid of the feeling of shame for my past?” 1:06:00 “What should I do if I feel like a parent to my own parents?” 1:09:12 “How can I work with my childhood if I don’t remember anything from there?” 1:10:57 "Friends are leaving abroad. I'm trying to suppress the feeling that they left and abandoned everything and everyone: family, friends, the country. It's very tormenting - I want to wish them happiness, but I can't" 1:14:48 "Why, after mobilization, does the desire to have a child from a loved one arise? Is there some kind of affective state in this determination?" ____________ ???? Ask your question in the "Ok, yasno" telegram channel: https://t.me/yasno_live #yasno #petranovskaya #psychotherapy