How to use boundaries with children, correct your mistakes, and have peace at home (podcast Ľudskošť)

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Published on Nov 9, 2023

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(00:00) Introduction (02:29) Parenting is hard for everyone (09:08) About stressful situations with children (18:01) When children do things “the other way around” (27:22) How to set boundaries (45:29) How to make amends when we fail (01:13:36) Conclusion Raising children without punishment and without manipulation is sometimes quite a challenge. Especially if we ourselves, as children, did not experience respect from adults and are learning to use it as adults. With younger children, even simply leaving the house can escalate into screaming and rejection. If we can stand it, react calmly and appropriately, our children will learn from us that difficult situations can be managed. In the new episode of Ľudskosti, Barbora Mareková talks to Zuzana Vašková, who works in educational activities and parenting counseling at the Metanoia Centrum civic association. “When a child is in an emotionally tense situation, our task is not to join them in their chaos, but to remain calm and draw them into our peace,” Zuzana says in the podcast. They talk about how we as parents can take care of our child and ourselves at the same time. How to give our children unconditional love, and at the same time clear and predictable boundaries. “Children need predictability. They need to know what will happen and that they are not a victim of the coincidences of that day, but that they have the ground under their feet from us,” says Zuzana. “When we are afraid to set boundaries for our children, it is often because of our own injuries. For example, because a parent needed to protect themselves and was afraid of losing the relationship. And this is a feeling that makes us parents insecure, but it also makes our child insecure.” Zuzka will explain what we can do when, as parents, we can’t handle something. Taking responsibility for failures teaches our children that everyone makes mistakes and that we can live with it. They will also discuss how to bring more comfort to the more difficult days with our children. “Parenthood is difficult because no one prepares us for it. But in my opinion, it is also one of the most beautiful opportunities in life, how we can grow ourselves,” says Zuzana. The guest recommended books: – The Attachment Effect – How Bonds Formed in Early Childhood Affect Our Relationships in Adulthood (Peter Lovenheim) – Discover the Good Parent Within You (Becky Kennedy) If you have feedback, a link or an idea for us, write to us at ⁠[email protected] You can also find the Žudskost podcast every Thursday on: SME app: http://onelink.to/j4vrzy Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2vxNbh9... Apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/sk/podcast... Google podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0... RSS: https://anchor.fm/s/56de9814/podcast/rss You can support the creation of podcasts by purchasing a digital subscription to SME.sk at https://www.sme.sk/predplatne #ludskost #denniksme #rodicovstvo

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