How to GET OVER a Breakup with Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend? We broke up. It's normal. And I have 4 stages of recovery ahead of me after the end of a relationship. 1 - The first stage is the acute pain stage. If I feel lonely - that's normal. If I feel lost - that's normal. If I feel hopeless - that's normal. If I cry a lot - that's normal. If I have no appetite - that's normal. If my heart is squeezing - that's normal. If I am overcome with painful memories - that's normal. If I am overcome with nostalgia - that's normal. If I really want to get back with my partner no matter what - that's normal. If I feel sorry for myself - that's normal. If every day is an ordeal for me - that's normal. (from 1 day to 1 month). When I feel a sign of the acute pain stage, I name this sign: I feel my heart squeezing in my chest. This is normal. I am in the acute pain stage now. It will pass. 2 - The second stage is the adjustment stage. After the acute pain stage, I gradually enter the adaptation stage. I begin to make plans for the future. It would be nice to... (8 points). I begin to smile, joke and laugh. I can already talk about my ex-partner without anger and resentment. I am already beginning to feel like the author of what is happening in my life and am gradually returning responsibility to myself. I am already beginning to notice interesting members of the opposite sex. The reasons for the breakup are becoming clear to me. I no longer cry more than once a week. Nostalgia overcomes me less often and I am able to control it. I no longer feel like a poor victim of circumstances. 3 - The third stage is the recovery stage. And at the best time and at the most appropriate moment and in the best possible way, exactly when I am most ready for it, I begin the recovery stage. I am sure that the decision to break up was really right and I am grateful to both myself and my ex-partner. And thanks to this, I understood: (8 points). I look to the future with confidence and optimism. And the future awaits me (8 good points). I enjoy nostalgia, which I can turn on and off whenever I want. I feel great and I look good. If necessary, I can calmly talk to my ex-partner. 4 - The fourth stage is the normalization stage. I develop new habits. I have learned meanings and lessons from past relationships and understand what should and shouldn't be done. I like my life (8 points). Sometimes I can remember my ex-partner with warmth. In addition to the stages of recovery after the end of a relationship: It is important to remember how everything actually was, and not to layer fantasies on your face. (What you didn't like, what caused problems, what made you nervous). (Make a list of facts). It is important to explore and develop the art of solitude. Train your ability to be face to face with yourself. Be interesting to yourself. (Restoring boundaries). Look for and find reasons for gratitude. Happiness is a habit, a muscle. (Gratitude diary). Restoring balance: Body Activity Contacts Spirituality - even distribution of energy. You can write a farewell letter to your ex-partner, telling there about all your experiences and feelings and then burn this letter with the words: "I have finished". Additional lessons to study: 12 PERMISSIONS TO BE ... (12 parental orders) - complete a practical assignment with permissions - • 12 PERMISSIONS TO BE ... (12 parental... ; HOW TO DESTROY/STRENGTHEN RELATIONSHIPS? - study 2 times and take notes (criteria for choosing a partner, family life cycle) - • HOW TO DESTROY/STRENGTHEN RELATIONSHIPS? ; 100 RULES OF A HAPPY LIFE: ANALYSIS - study 100 points and practice 1 point per day - • 100 RULES OF A HAPPY LIFE: ANALYSIS ; OATH OF PROTECTION FROM A MANIPULATOR: 20 points - study - • OATH OF PROTECTION FROM A MANIPULATOR: 20 points... ; KARPMAN'S TRIANGLE: Parent, Adult and Child - study and draw conclusions - • KARPMAN TRIANGLE: Parent, Adult... . Telegram: https://t.me/safin4 (Communication, news, event announcements) Website with lessons: https://qcic.ru/katalog (All lessons are open access) Face-to-face course (Moscow, St. Petersburg): https://qcic.ru (Live training with practice) Tour of Russia in the format of evening performances: https://tour.qcic.ru Donate: https://www.donationalerts.com/r/seodrum (At your discretion) Sincerely, Albert Safin