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When I conduct trainings on human power, I get a lot of questions about how, as an adult, to deal with various types of complications in the relationship with your parents. Such problems damage the mood, interfere with focus and work, worsen family relationships and create a troublesome distance between people. They cause pain on both sides. And pain consumes human energy, but one would like to direct it to the quality of life. One day, on our Instagram profile, I asked the powerful to write about the difficulties in their relationship with their parents, which take more energy from them than they would like or would be healthy. I grouped the received descriptions by topic and asked the doctor of psychological sciences, cognitive-behavioral therapist Diana Zandei for recommendations on whether and how it would be possible to solve the more common problems with adult parents. You can listen to them in this conversation. In my opinion, what Diana told will also be useful in those relationships with parents, where everything is even quite good. More sincerity between people means more energy and joy. More information on the conversation page here: https://ugunsskola.lv/cilvekjauda142 CONVERSATION STOPS: 0:00 Introduction 8:01 Why conflicts are inevitable in the relationship between adult children and their parents. 14:20 Ideas on how to deal with parents who complain about their health but don't take care of themselves. 35:16 When interactions with parents are unpleasant and even toxic. 53:36 “I cannot determine my life because when I make a decision that is not pleasing to the other, he collapses. And this "he" is not a two-year-old child, but my parent" - what to do with manipulative parents. 1:03:03 How to learn to draw a line with people (friends, spouses, parents) who use the strategy of not talking or silence as a punishment. 1:15:00 Controlling parents to the grave - what is the solution. 1:24:26 How not to be an inexhaustible wallet of your parents and a slave on the farm. 1:34:54 Being able to withstand the stress of change. 1:43:11 Being a mom to your mom - how healthy it is. 1:52:14 "Ageism" or age discrimination not only among older people, but also among young people.