Question: Peace be upon you, teacher. If it is possible, I will be married in September. I am 26 years old and have never had any intimacy with the opposite sex. I want to learn how to spend the first night (of course it does not have to be the first night) in a positive way. I am afraid of doing something wrong. I would be happy if you could inform me. May Allah protect you. * ANSWER: Peace be upon you. The fact that you have preserved your chastity is a situation worth congratulating. May Allah Almighty grant you the honor of standing with your chastity until the end of your life. Pay attention to the following during your first night meeting. 1- On the wedding day, make sure that your spouse and strangers are not together. Only with women. The veil should not be broken among women. 2- Do not stay alone together before your marriage, do not hold her hand. Do not pass dirty words between you. 3- After the wedding, do not let anyone, including your family elders, be present at the place where you will have your wedding. Be one hundred percent alone. This loneliness of yours means the following: As long as fate keeps you together as two spouses, no one, including your parents, should be with you in an environment where you will be husband and wife! There should be no one who knows what you do on the first night or any other night or day. Never allow yourself to do things like watching the sheets, which is one of the ugly and immoral things in Anatolia. Remember, be together in the family gathering, but when you are together with your spouse for sexual warmth, you will be alone. That first night and the following nights! You may object like this: 'Of course, we will be in a closed room.' Okay, you will be in a closed room, but before the room is closed, if it is understood why and when you closed the room, you will not be hidden. 4- Pray two rakats of prayer before being together with your spouse. After the prayer, pray for yourself and your spouse, and ask Allah for His help. Pray, 'O Allah! After our togetherness tonight, protect me and my spouse from the devil, as well as the child You will grant me!' 5- Speak sweetly to your spouse to help him/her overcome his/her excitement. Sit across from him/her, hold his/her hand, reveal his/her face, and help him/her remove his/her headscarf. Pray for him/her in front of his/her face, and tell him/her that you thank him/her for accepting you as a spouse. Continue this process of opening up until he/she feels comfortable talking to you. When he/she thanks you and says that he/she feels comfortable, express your happiness and tell him/her that you will work to make him/her happy. Pray for his/her mother and father. If there was something that upset him/her during the wedding process, apologize and ask for forgiveness. Tell him/her that you want to spend the time you are together based on Allah's Sharia and emphasize that you expect the same wishes from him/her. Never get into a controversial topic that night. Do not bring up philosophical topics that do not concern the wedding environment, and do not allow him/her to bring them up. 6- As the conversation progresses, also observe whether he/she is in a suitable mood for intimacy. If you sense that he/she is scared, tell him/her that you can postpone being together until the morning. Explain that you find his/her excitement normal. Tell him that you can go to bed and wake up for the morning prayer. 7- If you got married during her menstrual period due to a miscalculation, patiently spend a period that will be spent with non-relationship activities that we can call love and superficial intercourse until she washes. Never get involved in haram; sexual intercourse is haram while a woman is menstruating. Relationships that are not at that level are halal. 8- In the first intercourse, you should think that your husband may feel in a difficult situation. For a chaste girl, that moment is the most exciting and frightening moment of her life. Put yourself in her shoes and act compassionately, talk gently, be gentle. Spread it out over a long period of time and do what you will do and talk about what you will talk about. Don't rush, don't accuse, don't push, don't hurt! If there is a problem, that is, if she says that she cannot have sex with you even though everything is normal, or if you understand this, act as if nothing happened in such a situation and repeat your desire in the morning. If the problem continues after three days, you can consult with her and go to the doctor, but it would be better not to rush this process. It would be better not to rush for up to a month. After a month, see a doctor. 9- A sexual intercourse should start with sweet words, hand gestures and similar contributions that will stimulate both parties. This preliminary preparation should last half an hour if the man can stand it. The man should act knowing that the woman also feels like ejaculating like him. A man who ejaculate and then steps aside and neglects the woman is a rude man. The moment of ejaculation should be approximately the same for both of them, or they should know how to wait for each other. Although it is difficult at first, this is a situation that you will gradually get used to. For the rest of the letter: fetvameclisi.com/fetva-gerdek-gecesini-soran-musluman-gence-mektup-24318.html