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Call a counselor https://hubs.li/Q015g4790 Lots of mistakes? Lots of love Lots of hate You tell everyone about it Your brain thinks about it all the time Feeling like it should continue 1/ listen to your inner voice We're all right You're right Your ex too Difference in thoughts? We're all built differently You need to understand your ex's mental construction (we'll talk about it again) Why don't we understand each other? Human nature is complicated: leaving to make the other person react Getting angry to get love You have done things that your ex does not forgive you He thinks that your 2 lives are not compatible Lower the big voice Listen to the little voice Repeat to yourself: I fear nothing today I am not in danger I am capable of having a happy life, with or without him I forgive him I forgive myself 2/ give him time Yes he/she can sleep with someone else Yes it is hard on your ego Your feeling of security is put to the test He needs time to know where he stands Go really big radio silence Like baking a cake 3/ ask for advice Hard: you no longer have the right to make mistakes You are facing a bomb, it is one thread or the other. Do you prefer to make this choice alone? Work on yourself (lazy? "I'm ready for anything but... what's the magic text message" Work on understanding your relationship Call the counselors There is not just one type of ex 4/ come back different It's you but better In + calm "My ex could get me back if he told me that" The message is: (the bottom line) I understood that I acted badly I was clumsy I regret I hurt you I didn't understand your needs The form? Call the counselors Example: my ex had an absent mother, he had trouble building himself (individuation) and today he is looking for a surrogate mother (or lack of role model) My ex is coming out of a long relationship, he has trouble trusting