Sign up for the first center for emotional development in Brazil: https://amorespossiveis.love/plataforma/ Love should be seen as a way of life. And to that end, I developed a safe and delightful methodology to follow, based on psychology, psychoanalysis, neuroscience and mindfulness. It's practically the Harvard of love - a center with content for all the pillars of love, emotional support programs, workshops... always new things to help you with all your relationship issues. This is THE PLACE to connect with the best content, transform love into daily action and learn how to create more meaningful and happy relationships. Right off the bat, you'll have access to 4 AMAZING courses, with over 70 super complete classes, full of exercises based on my methodology. In addition, there will be live workshops every month with experts you love and you'll be able to ask questions, you'll have access to a BEAUTIFUL community, full of interested and interesting people like you, where I'll also recommend books, series and movies about love and there will be live discussions about them. I will also give you practical tools to start transforming your love life. And the content will be updated. But I know that what people ask me for the most is the EMOTIONAL SUPPORT PROGRAM. And yes, it will happen. I will help you personally, together with a group of open-hearted people to share experiences. A support and emotional growth group like you've never seen before! For everyone to open up, heal and transform themselves. There is no way to apply everything in Amores Possíveis.Love and not get results. Because everything is based not only on personal experiences, but on 20 years of study, research and serious work with real people! You are one step away from transforming your love life. I hope to see you at Amores Possíveis.Love. https://amorespossiveis.love/plataforma/ _____ _________ 00:00 Introduction 00:32 Attachment to love stories that don't work out 01:55 Healthy relationships after toxic relationships 05:33 Patterns built since childhood 10:00 Trash relationships 12:45 Who am I and who is the other person in the relationship? 17:52 Redefining suffering ----------------------------------------------------------- Yes, we like to suffer. And after many years of studies and analysis, Freud came to the conclusion that perhaps our search in life is not only the search for pleasure but also, paradoxically, a search for displeasure. In this chat, which is practically a class, psychoanalyst Maria Homem explains to us why we eroticize suffering and pain and why we seek to relive relationships that repeatedly leave us with a feeling of lack, abuse, and passivity. The answers are not simple. This logic is embedded in our unconscious and has been constructed since childhood. We need to rummage through our emotional drawers and revisit our early relationships to understand the patterns of this somewhat sadistic and abusive affection that have become synonymous with affection. What are these roles that we are trapped in and that often make us suffer? Maybe it is that of the betrayed woman (the one who is faithful to her mother's story, who was a total slob at home, was abandoned by her father and raised her bitter). Maybe it is that of the abused woman (who suffered mistreatment in childhood and continues to repeat relationships where the other person abuses her psychologically, financially and even through violence). Maybe it is the role of daddy's little princess (who was so well cared for and loved by her hero father, who is unable to grow up and replace this figure with a real man and, therefore, always goes after scoundrels or failed affairs). Each story has many knots and it takes a lot of analysis to identify and dismantle these unconscious narratives. Maria Homem also explains how insisting on choosing people who don't value us only deepens this spiral of devaluation and how, in this process, we tend to think that the other person is always incredible and we are always worthless. Another recurring behavior to stay in this place of suffering is to blame the other person. Who has never said: it's the trashy boy's fault, it's the sexist society's fault, it's the upbringing my grandmother gave me... outsourcing the problem won't make us change, right? You know what else doesn't help? Hope. That's right. The hope that the next crush will be cool or that things will work out now often makes us sit around and do nothing to change. Check out the chat and follow Maria's advice: Go for it, immerse yourself in yourself and in the other person. Give it your all and look for something different within yourself. Comment here if you also feel more attached to suffering than to light and happy relationships and what you try to do to break this. If you want more videos from Maria Homem, binge-watch her channel: / @mariahomem Don't forget to subscribe to the channel a