Are you interested in psychology? Also check out our blog: www.psyche.swps.pl You can also listen to the content we share on this channel as podcasts on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5cGf88v... iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/s... SoundCloud: / swpspl Lecton: https://lectonapp.com/podcast/e2bfa63... We know that not every love ends well. As part of the next meeting in the Modern Romantics series, we talked about how to deal with rejection, free yourself from intrusive memories, and regain peace. Together with the lecturer, social psychologist Dr. Tomasz Grzyb, we looked at love from different perspectives, paying a lot of attention to the subsequent stages of a relationship. One of the most interesting definitions of falling in love that can be found in psychological literature is the one that speaks of a "short psychotic episode." These three words will be the starting point for our reflections on love. After all, if it is “short”, it is strictly limited in time. So what next? Does it have to end? How? With what? Can you be in love your whole life? If we say “episode” – it is rather something that happens sometimes, not something that lasts forever. So once again we think about such a state that must pass or change into another, perhaps more permanent one? And finally “psychotic” – that is, different from “normal life”, different in our attitudes, thoughts, emotions and actions. Love is one of the great literary themes. Perhaps, if it were not for the author’s wounded heart, many masterpieces would not have been created. Especially for romantics, the topos of love that cannot be realized for various reasons is extremely important. Does a modern romantic read romances and experience emotional ecstasies in the realm of fantasy, and not in reality? Or maybe when we are in love, we all turn into romantics? We write poems, compose songs, idealize the object of our desires, and behave irrationally. Are we just repeating cultural clichés? During this meeting, we looked at love from various scientific perspectives. Both the one that tells us to look at it as a specific emotion that is supposed to encourage us to have lasting relationships, take care of our offspring, protect our partners, and others. We also considered the stages of love and relationships that change over the course of their duration and adapt to changing conditions. We also looked at those moments in life when love cannot continue for some reason. We looked at the statistics of relationships (and especially their endings) and tried to answer questions about their causes. About the speaker: Dr. Tomasz Grzyb – social psychologist at SWPS University in Wrocław. He deals with the psychology of social influence, influence techniques, and propaganda. About the series: Contemporary Romantics is a series of lectures organized by the Pan Tadeusz Museum and SWPS University. Each meeting, devoted to a separate topic, is inspired by words from the works of Adam Mickiewicz. The meetings take the form of lectures or workshops led by specialists, psychologists and trainers, lecturers at SWPS University. Art is a tool for learning about oneself and the world. A museum is not only a place where historical exhibits are presented, it is also a space for dialogue, inspiration and development. The reference point for the series Contemporary Romantics is the broadly understood romantic attitude and stereotypes related to it. A romantic hero can be a rebel, a sufferer, a melancholic, a loner, a madman, but also a fighter, a spy and a leader. Is there a place for romanticism in our pragmatic, digital times? Is a romantic only a lover of candlelight dinners and long walks? Or maybe we have trivialized this term and deprived it of its due meanings? #love #romantic #romanticism #relationships #relationships