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Conference by Thomas d'Ansembourg on 19 04 2017 - How to develop our civic interiority and put the best of ourselves at the service of all and the development of the World - organized by the ACNV-BF and the MDD in Louvain-la Neuve Description: Peace is learned, like math or football! Learning to live in peace with oneself, with others, to understand what is happening at home or at others when we are no longer at peace, how to find a climate of peace ourselves or accompany others on this path, these are basic lessons that, however, are not in school curricula. Thomas d'Ansembourg invites us to look at the power relations that have governed our relationships for thousands of years, to question our systems of thought at both the individual and societal levels, to sit in the chair of discernment and to leave our comfort zones: a challenge of living together. He offers us in a moment of presence to oneself, the exploration of our sensations and feelings - pleasant or unpleasant - expansion or contraction - and the needs behind which are nourished or not. These allow us to capture what we want to live, what we want to go towards and the needs that we have to take care of, ourselves, responsibly, without accusing the other or making them pay for our frustrations. Elements of the grammar of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). He notes that in the way of life that we have created, we have learned more to compensate for our intimate discomfort than to nourish our deep well-being; he notes that our society has generated movements of hatred, of vengeance such that they lead to the tragic attacks that we have known and "reacted", without fundamentally questioning ourselves and without using the relational tools that exist. He invites each of us to a questioning anything but "teddy bear" aimed at transforming ourselves, for a more discerning, more responsible citizenship. He takes us on a tour, with very concrete and detailed examples to support him, of four traps which, identified and treated by the NVC processes, transform from obstacles to the relationship into opportunities for listening and synergies: judgments prejudices-beliefs-categorizations the "You must - you must" Binary thinking or duality. And finally, he is delighted with the development of the online group created a few weeks ago to discuss "Peace can be learned", the silent revolution of Cultural Creatives and encourages us to dare this process of transformation, of hygiene of consciousness to make us grow and open ourselves up to the world. Summary - Timing: 00:00: Peace can be learned 03:17: Questioning our thought systems 15:05: Our inner climate 20:14: Cherishing the We 23:44: Our inner compass 27:51 Needs – values related to peace and our common thread 35:24: Compensations 38:22: Discernment and responsible citizenship 43:18: Power of transformation 45:56: Trap of judgments 55:53: Categories, beliefs, prejudices 59:00: You must – You have to – That's how it is – You have no choice 1:07:22: Binary thinking or duality 1:13:03: The new continent of relationships