LOSSES or MOURNING are a system of FEELINGS that accompany these losses, a kind of forced and FOREVER ????GOODBYE????. But it is a necessary and fundamental process to fill the ????VOID???? left by anything significant. __________________________________ Freud (1917) 'MOURNING is, in general, a reaction to the loss of a loved one, or to the loss of abstractions placed in their place, such as the homeland, freedom, ideal. __________________________________ SOME LOSSES: an object, a job, a boyfriend/girlfriend, a pet, a beloved artist, a job, love or who are in terminal situations usually go through __________________________________ The psychologist KUBLER developed 5 STAGES that are experienced in the PAINS of ????MOURNING and ????LOSSES. Kubler – Ross, when proposing these 5 stages, thought about people who are dealing with the loss of a loved one or who are in terminal situations, which they usually go through. It is a painful process that should not be interrupted or prevented. It is not considered a pathology, as it is natural in the lives of all human beings, unless this reaction is extremely exaggerated or causes excessive damage to physical and mental health. The loss of a loved one is very difficult at first, until the person gets used to their absence and this is gradually internalized. These processes occur in this order, they can mix and come and go at different times; not everyone goes through all of them either. Some may go through all of them and others less, but at least one will be experienced. These stages are... Many times a situation that seems bad to us tends to bring us great learning in the future, in addition to stories of overcoming and the possibility of helping loved ones if this happens to them. There are people so passionate about football that if their TEAM LOSES, they will go through the PROCESS of LOSS like any other loss, and it is accompanied by feelings: -- sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety, loneliness, fatigue, helplessness, shock, longing, numbness, relief and emancipation. _________________________________ 1️⃣ - DENIAL - moment when the loss seems IMPOSSIBLE to us, in which we are unable to believe. . It is so great that it cannot be possible, it could not be real. __________________________________ 2️⃣ - ANGER - after denial, even if it is consummated, we refuse to believe. . Thoughts of "WHY ME?" arise at this stage, as well as FEELINGS of ENVY and ANGER. . At this stage, any word of comfort seems false to us, making it difficult to believe in its veracity. __________________________________ 3️⃣ - NEGOTIATION arises when one begins to consider the hypothesis of loss, and in the face of this, TRY TO NEGOTIATE, most of the time with God, so that this is not true. . always in the form of promises or sacrifices. __________________________________ 4️⃣ - DEPRESSION - it arises when one BECOME AWARE that the LOSS is INEVITABLE and UNAVOIDABLE. There is no way to escape the loss, one feels the EMPTY "SPACE" of the person (or thing) one lost. . CONSCIOUSNESS will never see that person (or thing) again, and with their disappearance, go with them all the DREAMS, PROJECTS and all the MEMORIES associated with it gain a NEW VALUE. __________________________________ 5️⃣ - ACCEPTANCE. This is when one accepts the loss with PEACE and SERENITY, without despair or denial. In this phase, the empty space left by the loss is filled. The phase depends a lot on the ability to CHANGE the PERSPECTIVE and fill the void. __________________________________ The PHASES of GRIEF do not have a predefined time. It depends on each LOSS and PERSON. In the ones that take longer, it is from the DEPRESSION phase to the ACCEPTANCE phase. Some people take decades of life and others have not been able to accept it with serenity. The GRIEF PROCESS is accompanied by a set of feelings, among which are: SADNESS, ANGER, GUILT, ANXIETY, LONELINESS, FATIGUE, HELPLESSNESS, SHOCK, LONGING, TORPOR, RELIEF and EMANCIPATION. Reflected in PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS: -- emptiness in the stomach, tightness in the chest, lump in the throat, shortness of breath, lack of energy, dry mouth, among others. It is a necessary and fundamental process to fill the VOID left by any significant LOSS, not only of PEOPLE, but also of something important, an object, a trip, a job, or ideas. RELATIONSHIP ENDING Grief resulting from death is seen as more natural, because in addition to happening to everyone, we know that the person is gone and the good memories will remain in our memory and in our hearts. Metaphorically speaking, it is as if the environment that surrounded them “became sad” and “lost its color,” and it will be difficult to return to the way it was. Grief resulting from the end of a relationship is more painful than the pain of death, because that person will always be there, relating to others, breaking promises and dreams that had been made between the two of them. In general, many people seek therapeutic support