People are judged for not having friends, they are seen as antisocial, strange, selfish, and the simple fact of not having friends is seen as proof that they are difficult, boring, stuck-up, and proud people, who don't get along with others and only care about themselves. This ends up being absorbed by the person themselves, who can start to condemn themselves and believe that they are not a good person, who does not know how to interact with others. ...................................................................................................... Scheduling online or in-person psychotherapy: WhatsApp 11 99787-4512 Contact via WhatsApp by clicking directly here: https://rb.gy/zdrmq http://www.marisapsicologa.com.br/hor... In-person service: Rua Bela Cintra, 968 (near Av Paulista - Consolação Metro and Paulista Metro) In-person psychologist in São Paulo, region of Av Paulista, Consolação, Cerqueira Cesar. Become a member of the channel club: / psychologists in são paulo Free E-books http://www.marisapsicologa.com.br/mat... E-books already published: OCD Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Personality Disorders. Depression. Psychological treatments. Anxiety. Panic. ADHD Attention deficit. Hypochondria. Schizophrenia. Anorexia. Obesity. Agoraphobia. Treatment for alcoholism. Self-esteem. Childhood anxiety. Shyness. Bournot. Premature ejaculation. Overcoming the pain of separation. How to maintain sanity in quarantine. Insomnia. Abandonment neurosis. Borderline. Etc. Join the group on Telegram: https://t.me/PsicologosemSP This video aims to present situations in which a psychologist can act in the psychotherapy process, without having a treatment function. Psychotherapy is your space to receive guidance, reflect, get to know yourself, change behaviors, thoughts and feelings. This video is not a substitute for therapy. Cortes Channel: / @cortespsicologosemsaopaulo Main Channel http://goo.gl/32B3B6 Marisa de Abreu Psychologist CRP 06/29493 _________________________________________ LACK OF FRIENDS MEANS THAT YOU... The truth about not having friends Parable of the boy and the apple tree - Tells the story of a friendship where the boy took advantage of the apple tree to solve all his personal problems, sold the fruit to have money, cut the branches to have a house, cut the trunk to make a boat. With each use, he disappeared for a long time and only came back when he had a new problem. Until the apple tree started to refuse new friendships, for fear of all the neglect that that friendship caused him happening again. Helplessness can be another factor that explains why people prefer not to have friends. When you spend a long time needing support and acceptance and you don't receive it, you start to live the reality of not counting on people. You don't even get angry with them, you simply don't expect anything from them. Being above average in intelligence, or at least more focused in some aspects, can make a person feel disconnected from others. They will be very motivated to talk about subjects, go places, learn about things that those around them don't always value. And when most people value something else, most people want to watch football when you love astronomy, most people convince you that you are weird. But in reality, you are respecting differences while others are rejecting your way of being. You don't want to prove anything to anyone, but others try hard to convince you that you can't be the way you are, and this is very tiring. Selective people don't care about the number of friends they have, but how much each person adds or subtracts from this relationship. Some people love the status that numbers offer. But numbers are treacherous. What can we say about the happiness of having a large number of friends on social media, but when you need to talk to someone, absolutely no one has the time or patience? -Making and keeping friends is hard work – Contrary to what many people think, maintaining a friendship is something that is costly. It may not seem like it, because when you do it with pleasure, you don't notice the effort. Being interested in how well someone is doing or not. Being willing to do something when they need it, and often without them asking. Taking the initiative to do activities together. And some people give up all this work. The more a person values ​​themselves, the less they are bothered by what people say about them, the less they are curious about what people think of them, or what they expect from them. The more they value themselves, the more they are able to identify the real motive of the person who approaches them. Those who come promising romance but only want something casual are immediately discarded. Those who come pretending to be nice but only want favors are also quickly noticed. In short, it is possible that both positive and negative characteristics explain why people do not have friends.