Children can drive parents mad. If their hand slips, many find it completely understandable, but others consider it an unforgivable offense. It is not only corporal punishment that polarizes. Is it possible to raise children without punishment? What are the alternatives? And what harms children? More about the program: http://www.srf.ch/sendungen/club/kind... "He who loves his child disciplines him" was already propagated in the Old Testament and even today many people take the view that "a slap" at the right time is not a bad thing. And even the Vatican trivialized the much-quoted slap in the face, which supposedly has never harmed a child. Politically, opposing currents can also be identified time and again. For example, this week the Council of Europe again criticized France for not clearly banning the corporal punishment of children. Despite these tendencies, various studies have recently revealed some alarming facts. 25 years after the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child came into force, a 2014 UNICEF report revealed that a billion children worldwide are exposed to psychological and physical aggression. Whether it's a slap on the bottom or a slap in the face: six out of ten children are hit regularly. One in six children are even subjected to severe beatings. It is clear that the line between punishment and abuse is extremely fine. Punishment is a highly moral issue and the question of the right form is not only of concern to parents. Are punishments unavoidable, sensible and how do people in authority legitimize their punitive behavior towards children? A discussion led by Thomy Scherrer with the following guests: Margrit Stamm, emeritus professor of educational science Hans Melliger, youth attorney, head of the youth attorney's office in the canton of Aargau Martin Miller, psychotherapist and author of "The true drama of the gifted child." Sven Broder, journalist and author of "Papa stands up for himself - On the art of being a father and remaining a man" Margrit Hugentobler, retired primary school teacher Guests' views Hans Melliger: "The sanctions in Swiss juvenile criminal law are designed to protect and educate. The risk of recidivism should be combated through measures and punishments. "If well-integrated young people are punished for minor offenses, Gotthelf says that "rain goes deeper into the ground than hail."" Sven Broder: "No child becomes sensible, nice and well-behaved all at once. On the contrary: children have a nasty, almost sadistic talent for repeatedly pushing the limits and going beyond them. And then? Hit them again? Hit them harder?" Martin Miller: "Often the child does not understand the purpose of punishment at all. If we punish out of convenience and hope that we can cover up our weakness with repression, we are wrong. Punishment only makes sense if rules are broken and the child understands the punishment as a consequence of their misbehavior. The learning effect is that breaking the rules is not worth it in the future." Margrit Stamm: "There are "good" punishments. But the term punishment is frowned upon in our society. It reminds us of black pedagogy, of raising children with a carpet beater as a reminder of parental authority, and of the fears associated with it. Nevertheless, good punishments are the most effective way of reacting to inappropriate behavior, showing children consequences and setting them rules and boundaries. Good punishments are fair and non-violent." Margrit Hugentobler: "When raising children, love for the child, mutual trust and respect, a certain tolerance and a dose of humor are and have always been important to me. This does not exclude clear rules, boundaries and consequences. Punishments should be related to the misbehavior and not cause physical or psychological damage." ----- ???? If you have any questions or suggestions, please feel free to contact us via SRF customer service. We look forward to any feedback: https://www.srf.ch/hilfe/kontakt