#puerperium #emotionalpuerperium #postpartum Puerperium: 7 things that no one tells you Are you pregnant, about to have a baby or have already had a baby and are full of doubts, don't know what the postpartum period will be like, which is a very difficult time in the lives of mothers, especially first-time mothers? So stay with me in this video and I'll talk about 7 things that no one tells you about this phase that is a true mix of emotions! Hello, I'm Mary, mother of two, mother of João Pedro and Laura. Having been through two postpartum periods, I know exactly what it's like. And when we become mothers for the first time, we feel so insecure, don't we? Tell me here if you're going through this. But I was scared and had a lot of insecurities and as time went by I gained more confidence. But let's talk about the 7 things that no one tells you about the postpartum period 1- Gases - Right after you have a baby, the doctor tells you not to talk too much. And that's exactly why. I talked too much and then I suffered a lot with gas pain. I had two C-sections and I didn't have labor pain, but gas pain, for God's sake. I suffered, okay!!! 2- Belly - right after you give birth, it looks horrible. It gets darker and shriveled. And you leave the maternity ward looking like you're still pregnant. Don't be scared, it's normal. And after a while it goes back to its normal color and starts to deflate. But the first time you look at it, you get a fright. 3- The third thing is that sometimes you take a million courses beforehand and think you're totally prepared, but everything you plan may not turn out as you expect. For example, breastfeeding. You plan to breastfeed exclusively and suddenly the doctor says you'll need to supplement and you get desperate because you don't want to. And that happened to me and I cried a lot. But you're no less of a mother because of that. Get it into your head that you're the best mother you can be. And don't get too narrow-minded, you needed to supplement, don't be resistant. The postpartum period is not easy. 4- It's getting home. At the hospital you had help day and night, right? At home it's a different story. It's you, the father and the baby to take care of everything. And you get desperate, right? Will I be able to handle it? 5- There are the opinions. The hurricane of opinions starts during pregnancy, such as the size of the belly, the mother's diet and habits, goes on to the choice of the type of delivery and whether after the baby is born, about breastfeeding, introducing solid foods and even very personal choices, such as hiring a nanny or putting the baby in a nursery. Remember that it is essential to be able to filter the comments, because they will be inevitable. And you deserve to experience motherhood in the best possible way. You deserve a peaceful postpartum period. 6- Low self-esteem. Nursing bra, nightgown, lack of bathing, no time to take care of yourself, get your nails done, go to the salon, smelling of milk and with that the mother's self-esteem goes down. But one thing is for sure, this will pass and in a few months you will start taking care of yourself again. Or maybe it will take longer. But the important thing is that it passes and as time goes by you will feel better about yourself. 7- The arrival of a baby can be a challenge for your partner. The mother is born with the baby, but it can take a while for the father to get the hang of it. When a child arrives, couples experience a real tsunami. Fatigue, a frantic pace, all these questions, their possible idealization of family life, a lower libido, there is no more time for the two of them... the couple's dynamic is completely turned upside down. That's it, being a mother is a huge challenge, isn't it? And this postpartum phase is not easy. And the baby grows and the challenges change, I speak from personal experience. But at the same time that it is challenging, being a mother is experiencing the greatest love in the world, a love that Hello, I'm Mary, mother of two, a former businesswoman in the bakery business who became a housewife. I decided to create this channel to talk about motherhood. I share my experience and give a lot of tips based on studies. Pregnancy, breastfeeding, weaning, newborn care, baby or child behavior, tips for those trying to get pregnant, childbirth and postpartum.