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Self-assertion is a fundamental quality in our personal life (with our spouse, our children, etc.), professional and social, which allows us to establish balanced, fair and appropriate relationships. Many of us have difficulty putting ourselves before others, at the risk of finding ourselves in unpleasant situations. Whether it is declining an invitation, refusing to provide a service, asserting one's point of view. Asserting oneself requires: being aware of one's uniqueness, one's value, one's legitimacy. It is recognizing that no one is better placed than me to - defend my point of view or know my needs. to have self-confidence. I have the right to put my well-being first, I do not risk being no longer loved or disappointing my loved ones. Asserting yourself with empathy: I listen to the person I am talking to, I rephrase what they are saying, I put forward my point of view. Example: "You are angry with him because he forgot to wish you a happy birthday. I understand. You feel useless, but in my opinion you should talk to him about it. It was probably unintentional and he loves you very much." Revealing yourself: saying "I" expressing your emotions giving your position on the subject. Example: "I am embarrassed that I cannot help you. I would have liked to do you this favor but I am not available this evening." Finding a compromise: analyze your position and that of the person you are talking to, respecting yourself and your values. You may be able to find a compromise. Example: "I cannot help you all day with your move, but I will be there from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m." Formulate your requests clearly and positively: formulate the positive consequences for you. Be specific about what you want. Example: "I would be happy if we had dinner at a restaurant this evening." Asserting yourself helps you develop greater self-confidence and, above all, establish more honest and sincere relationships with your environment. Find 9h50 le matin-Picardie on: ► http://france3-regions.francetvinfo.f... Subscribe to our Youtube channel: ▶ / france3nord Find us on our website: ▶ http://hdf.france3.fr/ On Facebook: ▶ / france3nordpasdecalais ▶ / france3picardie On Twitter: ▶ / f3nord ▶ / f3picardie