Parenting is also difficult because it mirrors our own repressed emotions (Humanity)

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Published on May 14, 2024

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*The podcast was originally released on 29/06/2022 *Support the Humanity podcast in the Toldo app and get access to extra content at http://sme.sk/extraludskost Many of us feel that punishments and rewards are not tools we want to use in a relationship to our children. At the same time, we do not see good examples of how to behave in tense moments - when a child cries, screams, or we feel that he is ignoring us. It is therefore good to clarify what we are actually dealing with in our relationship with the child. "People who plan to have children together should have discussions about values. They should talk about what they want to pass on to their children. But they usually talk more about the family rituals they experienced and the background of what they brought from the family they grew up in, so they can say what they don't want for their children. However, few people talk about what they want for their children and in what values it is reflected," says parenting and educational consultant Martina Vagačová, who runs effective parenting courses and is also the author of the book "How to Survive Parenting". In the new episode of the Humanity podcast, Barbora Mareková talks with her about why it makes sense to show respect to children from birth - that is, even at a time when they themselves are not yet able to reciprocate it. They discuss why we adults are so stressed by children's crying and screaming, and why it doesn't matter how parents interpret their children's feelings and behavior. "If the children's behavior makes us angry, or if we feel that the child is ignoring us or provoking us, we have different feelings towards him than if we perceive that he has some real reason for what he is doing," says Martina Vagačová. They will also talk about why it is important to admit in front of the child if we have made a mistake and how to do it in order to heal and deepen our relationship. Mentioned in the podcast: Janet Lansbury (Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting, No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame) Guest recommended books: Hold your children: Why parents are more important than friends (Gábor Maté, Gordon Neufeld) Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive (Daniel J. Siegel, Mary Hartzell) - Gift (Edith Eva Eger, Esmé Schwall Weigand) – If you have feedback, a link or an idea for us, write to us at [email protected] You can find the Ľudskost podcast every Thursday also on: SME app: http://onelink.to/j4vrzy Spotify: https://open .spotify.com/show/2vxNbh9... Apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/sk/podcast... RSS: https://anchor.fm/s/56de9814/podcast/rss You can support the creation of podcasts by purchasing a SME.sk digital subscription at https://www.sme.sk/predplatne #ludskost #rodicia #vztahy

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