This conversation will be useful if you are familiar with the feeling when you are being looked down upon, ignored, or belittled in a hidden or open way at work, among relatives, or at a place of study. Perhaps you have encountered a situation where a manager or colleague, when talking to or about you, raises his voice, uses unpleasant terms or attitudes, ignores your ideas or needs. Perhaps you see that another colleague or someone important to you is acting in this way? What to do if this happens. How to draw boundaries. How to protect yourself and others involved in this situation. Līga Bērziņa from uzvediba.lv educates groups on issues of emotional abuse – in the workplace and in educational institutions. Līga not only trains people on how to recognize, what to do, and how to protect themselves and others from emotional abuse, but she has also created very effective games that help both adults and children learn how to prevent dangerous actions against themselves and others. I really hope for your help so that Līga Bērziņa's story about violent behavior reaches as many people and groups as possible. Līga helps us see what behavior is not beneficial for us to allow, neither in our own nor in the actions of others, both when we act as an abuser, when we are in the role of a victim, and when we witness such behavior. I say thank you if you recommend this conversation to other people! Līga's recommended books and other resources are on the conversation page here: https://cilvekjauda.lv/epizode/206/ FOR THIS EPISODE A SPECIAL THANK YOU TO THE PARTICIPANTS OF THE "Powerful Partnership" PROGRAM. Laura and Michels created it so that people have even cooler relationships and manage to be a stronger team with their partners, in which everyone achieves their goals and also gets more joy in everyday life. If this is relevant to you, then participate in the Powerful Partnership program this month: https://cilvekjauda.lv/jaudigapartner... That way you will do two good things at the same time – you will both take care of the quality of your relationships and help us continue the Human Power podcast. CONVERSATION POINTS: 0:00 Introduction 3:02 The privilege of helping 4:44 What is and is not workplace violence, how to identify it 10:37 How important it is to learn to say NO, and how to teach it to children 12:45 What you need to know about favoritism in the workplace 18:27 How readiness for decision is manifested and why it is often misinterpreted 25:26 The danger of social isolation 29:41 What to do if parents or grandparents consider one of the children to be more special and beloved 35:01 “Things happen in the workplace that the entire team allows” 41:09 What are personal boundaries, how to set them and how to protect them 47:25 Karpman's triangle and its laws, how they manifest themselves in work life 52:06 How powerful a feeling of guilt is, and how to manipulate it 56:15 How to learn to rely on yourself in difficult situations 1:02:04 Where can you find out how to behave in a work team so as not to become someone's victim or do stupid things yourself unintentionally 1:06:39 Psychological contracts in the work environment, how to implement them 1:10:45 What does undermining authority or vertical violence look like 1:16:31 "If you feel lonely, stop and talk to yourself" 1:17:46 Unwritten rules in violent work teams, when you have to walk like through a minefield 1:27:33 What can you do for the cause as an employee, as a manager and as an abuser 1:31:07 The new game "Don't put off dreams, life, work" - who is it addressed to and who will benefit the most