My son is gay, what do I do? The same thing we would do if he was sleeping with his girlfriend or was getting divorced or was addicted to pornography, an alcoholic, a liar or an atheist. Some believe that same-sex attraction is worse behavior than adultery, lying, stealing or anger, but this is not the case; for God all sins are equal. Those who are attracted to people of the same sex only hear two messages: A) Message from the religious: “You are bad because you chose to be homosexual, that is why you cannot be part of our home or our church. God wants you to suffer because you are bad.” B) Message from the LGBT community: “God made you gay, so accept it and enjoy it. Forget your fairy tale of getting married, having children and living as a family in a nice house.” But what is God’s message? The message is “God loves you and what you feel for people of the same sex or what you have done in the past, does not determine who you are because, if you have received Jesus as your savior, you are a son or daughter of God, you have been forgiven and you are righteous and holy. The church is the Father’s house and it is your home; here we are not going to condemn you, but we are going to help you to be free and if you fall again we are going to lift you up.” In the Bible, although we do not see specific examples (characters) that explain to us what to do in situations of homosexuality, we do see the following stories from which we can learn: Jesus and the adulterous woman (John 8:3-7). We see that he did not condemn her, but he was not permissive with sin either. Nathan confronts David’s adultery. 2 Samuel 12:9-14. We see that Nathan did not condemn David for his sin, and although David repented, he still had to pay the consequences of sin. Eli and his sons. 1 Samuel 2-3. We see that, although Eli confronted his sons about their adultery, his permissiveness brought consequences. So, what should I do if I find out that my son, my wife or my father is gay? 1) The first thing is that they need to know that God loves them and so do we. John 3:17 2) Remember that we are not alone in this desert, God knows everything and he is with us. 3) If our first reaction was anger, we have to ask that person to forgive us. 4) It is important to relate with love and with the truth: Just as Jesus loved the adulteress, we must do the same. 5) We cannot allow this situation to lead us to believe something different from what the Bible says. The Bible condemns the practice of homosexuality as we see in Genesis 2:24 and Romans 1:26-27 7) We must know that trying to control or change the other person is useless. 8) Our priority must be the relationship and not the problem. Homosexuality cannot become our obsession or the only focus of our conversations. 9) Let's not label them as "gay," lesbian, homosexual or bisexual. The truth is that they are a MAN or a WOMAN with struggles in their sexual identity. 10) Ask the person if they would be willing to receive outside help and talk to a Christian counselor, since homosexuality is not the real problem, but rather it is the manifestation of painful situations from their childhood that are rooted in their heart and that is what needs to be healed. Are those who are attracted to people of the same sex saved? If a person goes to hell for being gay, then so do liars, complainers, the bitter, the envious... The truth is that we all deserve to go to hell, “there is no one righteous” (Romans 3:10), but the good news is that we are not saved by our works but by believing in Jesus: He who has the Son has life; he who does not have the Son of God does not have life. (1 John 5:12) But then the real question should be: Is it possible to believe in Jesus and still be homosexual? We must know: One thing is to feel attracted to people of the same sex and another is to give in to that attraction and practice homosexuality. One thing is to feel attracted to a married woman and another is to let ourselves be carried away by those feelings and have sexual relations with that woman. Sometimes we fall into a hole and sin, but we can get back up and His grace will always be there, however, those who allow those sins to be a permanent practice, little by little move away from God until they stop believing, and when a person stops believing, they lose their salvation. Remember to use our hashtag #HisPresence