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Small talk — for some people, it's an end in itself. For others, especially introverts, it's a painful step on the way to deeper topics of conversation. Would you like another YouTube video about small talk? Then take a look here: • From small talk to deep conversation (i... Interesting topic? You can find out a lot more about it in "How to Break the Ice" by Leil Lowndes. ➣ To the audio book on Audible: https://alnk.li/ub (only available in English) ➣ To the book on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2OnOMU0 Incidentally, I used the book as a source for this video. Core ideas of the video: Level 1 - Starting a conversation. For many of us, this is already a huge barrier to entry because we don't know whether and how we can even get involved in a conversation. Tip 1: If you don't want to approach others, just let them talk to you. Wear a whatsnda. More information on this in the book "How to Break the Ice". Tip 2: What you say doesn't really matter. What matters most is whether your tone is friendly and your body language is open. More on this in this playlist • See what others think (Body language... Level 2 - Avoid awkward silences You may know this too. A friendly "How was your weekend?" is only answered with a grumbled "hmm, pretty good". And now we're left standing there looking stupid. What else can you say? Tip 1: It's better to ask open questions, i.e. questions that can't be answered with just one word. Tip 2: Think of a good answer to typical closed questions. Level 3 - Big Talk Unforgettable conversations that we will fondly remember even years later only come about when you or the other person is really passionate about the topic. Tip 1: Ask the other person for their opinion on topics that you are particularly interested in. Show that you respect their opinion. Tip 2: Let the other person talk. If you listen with genuine interest, the other person will see you as a good conversation partner.