At your request, after the huge impact she had at the last meeting with Ștefan Mandachi, psychotherapist Lavinia Bârlogeanu is here again today and will meet us with edifying explanations about the most sought-after topics of the last year: suffering, joy, trauma. We will learn from this material how important suffering is to our development, the role of therapy in uncovering trauma, how important moments of silence are, and how we can come to embrace joy. #suferință #tăcere #traumă #bucurie 00:00-15:41 - Why have trauma and suffering become such desirable and sought-after topics? Maybe because of the fact that for too long I didn't look for new explanations about these subjects, because of a sense of unjustified modesty, imposed by society. But what is trauma and how does our mind dissociate the traumatic event? That is if there is one. Because we learn from Lavinia that trauma can occur even in the absence of an event. Here too, we have birth as an example and we learn what happens to the baby when, immediately after birth, it is separated from the mother. 15:41- 30:23 - Does looking for childhood toxicity mean living in the past? Sometimes we experience feelings of terror when we have to make contact with traumatic childhood events, so we refuse to do so. What we miss, however, is that we must allow ourselves to relive the pain. Why? Because only by becoming aware of the pain and going through it, we can free ourselves from the "dungeon" of the past. Here too, we find out if we can heal ourselves without specialist help, just by a perfect harmony of our psychic functions. Lavinia provides us with a personal example of authentic and spontaneous healing. 30:23- 41:15 - Is the psychologist an impenetrable "wall"? Or does he also have his sufferings? Again, we arrive at the joy of discovering one's vocation. Certainly, psychologists who have found their vocation in this field, find themselves in the experiences of patients. And this would not be possible without them, in turn, having experienced various sufferings and traumatic events. We learn in this fragment how a psychologist must pass all the patient's experiences through the "filter" of his own being and that (obviously) if he had not experienced the pain, he could not do this. 41:15- 51:36 - Prayer and confession as therapeutic acts. Would it be a coincidence that most of Jung's patients were Protestants and had no "right" to confession? Certainly not. Confession can help us release some of the tension on a spiritual level, but it also has a "perverse effect", as Lavinia calls it. Prayer also has a liberating effect, but for a truly healing effect, it should be combined with meditation. 51:36- 58:42 - How important is it to be silent? Why do we keep talking (even when we shouldn't) instead of listening? Maybe because silence is much harder to manage than useless chatter. 58:42- 1:03:22 - Can you evolve without suffering? We have the answer in this excerpt. What we can say is that suffering is the energy reserve that aims to support us in the process of evolution. In conclusion, we should learn to embrace all the sadness in our life, because they are necessary for us, and the conflicts behind them are the "engines" of our development. ______ I greet you! I'm Stefan Mandachi and I've been working with passion since 2020 to build a unique YouTube channel in Romania. I want to create a virtual realm of empowerment, creativity and free expression, where ideas flow freely, without censorship, are useful, wholesome and original, but above all, inspire. As a volunteer, I founded the humanitarian association "Jeni Mandachi" where we help stray animals and people lost by fate. As an entrepreneur, over the years I have created several brands, which have become symbols in their fields: the largest domestic fast-food franchise ever created here, Spartan, and the best-rated 4-star hotel in Romania, Mandachi Hotel & Spa. As a film director, I made the manifesto documentary "30 years and 15 minutes", the short films "The Little Truth" and "Peace off". In 2023 my last documentary film is released. I want to provide value here and through my life. To share my professional experience and to be with people who think and feel like me, so that together we can make a more accepted and authentic world. Facebook: / stefanmandachi Instagram: / stefan.mandachi TikTok: stefanmandachi Blog: https://www.stefanmandachi.ro My soul project - DREAM BOOK: https://www.caietulvisurilor.ro