*Support the Humanity podcast in the Toldo app and get access to extra content at http://sme.sk/extraludskost (00:00) Introduction (02:49) Is the expectation of fidelity a given? (14:09) Why does the topic of infidelity touch each of us? (19:05) How do women and men perceive infidelity (24:14) Why are people unfaithful? (34:07) Is infidelity a consequence of a dysfunctional primary relationship? The topic of infidelity touches everyone in some form. Perhaps we have personal experience with it and have been in the position of an unfaithful person, or we have been in the position of a deceived person, and perhaps we have found ourselves in the role of a lover. Infidelity also touches us if we grew up in a household with an unfaithful parent. Or if we observe the breakdown of a relationship due to infidelity in our close circle. Or if, for example, we are a wilting willow to a person who has found himself in an infidelity triangle and does not know how to get out of it. Why are people unfaithful? What are their expectations from parallel relationships and what does reality look like then? In this episode of Ľudskosti, Barbora Mareková talks about infidelity with a pair of experts - Lenka Pavuková Rušarová and Norbert Uhnák. Both are clinical psychologists, psychotherapists and also engage in couple therapy, and Lenka, in addition to her psychological practice, also creates the podcast Prítomie, focused on sharing stories and supporting people in their own experiences. "For example, I encounter people discovering a kind of romantic side of themselves through infidelity, which they had previously paid little attention to in their lives," says Norbert in the podcast. "And the truth is that in our culture, people are not very cultivated in this regard." "Some people think that in a relationship where they feel security, peace, love and care, they cannot simultaneously feel and build adventure, risk, desire, distance and novelty," says Lenka in the podcast. "And of course, you have to try a little and do it deliberately, but it is possible. However, people often think that the spark has disappeared from the relationship and therefore it is probably not the right relationship anymore - they take it very fatalistically," she adds. We will discuss the topic of infidelity in two parts of the podcast, in this first one Lenka and Norbert will explain how infidelity usually starts and what forms it can take, and in a week we will put ourselves in the shoes of all the people in the infidelity triangle. They will also talk about the conditions under which a primary relationship can handle infidelity - so that a sense of meaning, love and trust is restored in it. And how can infidelity be prevented - if we consider fidelity a value that is important to us. Mentioned in the podcast: The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (Esther Perel) Barbora Mareková's Newsletter: It is published once every two weeks and you can receive it by email, subscribe here https://profil.sme.sk/e-maily?subscri... The latest issue of the newsletter: Family first? The story of the Kočner brothers shows that it's not that simple https://komentare.sme.sk/c/23397470/r... - If you have feedback, a link or an idea for us, write to us at [email protected] The Humanity podcast can also be found every Thursday on: SME application: http://onelink.to/j4vrzy Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2vxNbh9... Apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/sk/podcast... RSS: https://anchor.fm/s/56de9814/podcast/rss You can support the creation of podcasts by purchasing a digital subscription to SME.sk at https://www.sme.sk/predplatne #ludskost #denniksme #nevera #parovyterapeut