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What is loneliness and how does it affect a person? How is loneliness different from solitude? And at what moments in life are we most vulnerable to this feeling? The answers to this and other questions were sought in the course of the lecture series “The Testability of the Untestable Feeling” for the Anton Tut Ryadom Foundation. Speakers: Ekaterina Artemenko — community director of the Yasno service, practicing psychologist, gestalt therapist Alena Yudina — candidate of psychological sciences, practicing psychologist, gestalt therapist Yasno service. Find a psychologist online and sign up for a consultation. 20% discount on the first session with the promo code YOUTUBE: https://yasno.live Ask a question to Yasno psychotherapists: https://t.me/yasno_live And if you are a psychotherapist, you can find a lot of useful and interesting information in our special channel: https://t.me/yasno_daily Projects of the Anton Tut Ryadom charity foundation: https://antontut.ru/proekty/ What the lecture is about: 00:00 Who is afraid of loneliness and why? 02:40 What is the difference between loneliness and solitude? 03:50 Why do people need other people? 07:18 How is shame related to loneliness? 11:05 Why does loneliness hurt? 16:00 Do we really need reinforcement from the outside? 20:00 “I can live without you, but I don’t want to — I find it more interesting with you”: where does the need for play come from? 23:25 Trouble can be shared, but what about pain? 27:40 How do we “create” our own scenario of loneliness? 30:00 Existential loneliness — what is it? And is it possible to get rid of it? 35:00 “We discover ourselves through relationships” 36:55 Can we distract ourselves from our own loneliness with other people? 40:24 “Loneliness is not a problem. It is life, and life is a mystery” 43:15 Is it possible to solve the problem of loneliness? 45:07 If I am alone, does it mean I cannot be loved? 51:00 Can the problem of loneliness be solved by creativity? 52:15 “Many beautiful things that we can experience, we can only experience in solitude” 59:10 Can we seduce others to life? 01:02:30 Conclusions