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A phenomenon that has been present in dating culture for centuries, the act of “disappearing” from someone’s life without any explanation has gained momentum in a society where social networks and dating apps are omnipresent. The suffering caused by abandonment exposes the difficulty we have in dealing with the fear of loneliness. To talk about this behavior – portrayed more than 2 centuries ago by Jane Austen in the novel “Sense and Sensibility” – Natuza Nery talks to Natalia Timerman, psychiatrist and author of the book “Empty Cup”, in which the main character has to deal with the disappearance of a love, and Ana Suy, psychoanalyst and professor at PUC-PR, she is the author of “We aim at love and hit solitude”. In this episode: Natalia talks about how she overcame a “lost one” and wrote a novel, without knowing that she had been the victim of ghosting: “I sensed that it was something that wasn’t just being said to me”. This is because, she argues, when the breakup happens without explanation, “the pain is much greater”; (2:50) The writer points out that ghosting occurs between men and women, and in hetero and homosexual relationships: “It’s like shooting yourself in the foot, because love is a human power”. However, Natalia considers that the practice is potentially more harmful to the female gender. “In people’s imagination, relationships have more weight for women”, she states; (9:50) Ana analyzes the motivations of men and women to practice ghosting: “It’s difficult to say what we feel to the other person”, she points out, remembering that “it can be even more difficult to say what we feel to ourselves”. And she adds that “disappearing” is understood as a way of not dealing with the decision to break up; (15:15) For her, the fear of abandonment and loneliness “are linked to very primitive issues within us” - and can lead to a lack of understanding of our own suffering. The psychoanalyst points out how the so-called emotional responsibility comes in as a response to this, but can “hinder the naturalness and spontaneity” of people in relationships; (21:15) #relationships #ghosting ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Hello! This is the g1 channel, globo's news portal. Here we will bring videos to inform, inspire and entertain. Want to understand a fact? Come with us! ???? Want to see cool stories? Come with us! ???? Want to know what's going on? Come with us! ???? New videos every day ???? ???? Check it out! We already have Segue o Fio, Olha que Legal, Fato ou Fake, G1 Explica, Que meme é esse?, Semana Pop and more on the air! Check out all our playlists! https://bit.ly/3zdXlHY Follow us and activate the bell ???? to find out everything that's going on here on the g1 channel on YouTube. You can come in, feel free to share this news with your friends and don't forget to subscribe, okay? https://glo.bo/3pIZyHL ???????????? And much more content on g1.com.br g1 on Social Networks: TikTok - glo.bo/33cZzg1 Kwai - glo.bo/3pJoShs Facebook - facebook.com/g1 Twitter - twitter.com/g1 Instagram - instagram.com/portalg1/ #g1 #news