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How can I have a relationship? How can I meet someone? How do I know I'm making the right choice? - this is a question often asked by university-age interested parties at my lectures. They think that getting to know each other and forming a relationship is a special, difficult, magical event, and that the later success of the relationship depends on the right choice. My two decades of practice as a couples therapist have taught me that maintaining the relationship is at least as important an issue - what we do with each other. How do we hone in on each other, how do we listen to each other, how do we discuss and take into account each other's needs - and then how do we commit to each other. During the lecture, we will think through the relationship from the first time we see each other to living together in a committed relationship - at what stage of the relationship's development do we need what we need, what is worth paying attention to. Most of all, of course, about each other - during the lecture, it is no disadvantage if it is also about the speaker.