00:00 Today's Theme 04:08 What to do 07:03 People who don't fall into the pattern Today, I would like to explain the characteristics of people who are mean or bully others. There are two major characteristics of people who are mean or bully others. The first is that they think they are right. They have little awareness that they are exaggerating or doing mean things. People who say to their subordinates, "Why are you doing such poor sales results?" think that it is for the sake of the subordinate or the company. They think that threatening them in this way may help their subordinates grow, and that if they are not growing, it is okay to ask them to quit. The second is that they "cannot consider the other person's position or feelings." Many people have poor imaginations. They don't think about what the other person thinks, or whether their superiors will be annoyed by them. Many people have a very narrow perspective. For example, there are some bosses who force overtime at black companies and think that it is good. They are people who think that continuing to work even if it means working overtime is what makes them happy in life. Also, some people do it to protect their position, to get good grades, and to get promoted, even though the other person may not like it. A boss who apologizes to the president together with his subordinate when he makes a mistake is certainly a good boss, but it is difficult to get promoted. There are people who turn a negative into a positive, saying, "This guy did something bad, so I scolded him," as if they found out about the subordinate's mistake first. Such people are likely to get promoted. If you look at it from a distance, you can see that "You (the boss) are in the wrong," but in reality, the boss one level above or the president may see them as reliable. In the end, the boss who is the one who is bullying is also at fault, and they don't want to supervise or think it's a hassle to educate them. That's why they may let it go. <What to do> Basically, you cannot change the other person. ・Apologize immediately or apologize after a while ・Prepare a compromise People who bully others will not be able to stop themselves unless they get angry, but in the end they have to deal with the situation and go to court. Therefore, you need to prepare a compromise. Apologize by saying something like, "I'm sorry, but I'll take on this case as a sign of remorse." This means that you will understand and say, "Oh, I see." It makes you feel humiliated and ashamed, and it makes you feel really bad, but you do it. - Don't throw away evidence of power harassment. Wait for the wind to change Don't throw away emails, audio data (sometimes you have to say "I'm going to record now"), etc. In the end, people like this will get into trouble somewhere, so someone will often judge them even if you don't do it. So it's best to wait for the wind to change. The royal road is to wait for the right timing and present the evidence you have. In the first place, being subjected to power harassment means that the person being subjected to it is careless. The person who is being subjected to power harassment is careless, but the person being subjected to it is careless, and everyone knows that "he seems dangerous" but they may not realize it and end up stepping on someone's tail. People who are not good at internal politics are better off avoiding it than rebelling. <People who don't fit the pattern> Since they are children, it can be avoided in most cases if you prepare a compromise, but there are some people who don't. There are some people who do it even though they don't think they are right, and they do it after understanding the other person's position and feelings. There are people like that sometimes. Those people are difficult. They seem to have antisocial personality disorder (psychopathy). In the past, people with borderline personality disorder were said to be able to calculate, but now that I understand the concept of developmental disorders, I think that they often can't do it when they look back clinically. Sometimes there are people who are really strategists, but I think it's better to wait for a problem to occur. This time, I explained about meanness and power harassment. ---------- Power harassment boss? Narcissistic personality disorder explained • Power harassment boss? Narcissistic personality disorder explained [A psychiatrist explains... Power harassment and workplace bullying occur, and how to deal with them, explained from a psychiatrist's perspective • Part 2, Chapter 2, Section 9 Power harassment and workplace bullying occur, and how to deal with them ---------- A wide range of explanations about psychiatric treatment are provided for the general public in an easy-to-understand manner. The use of psychoa