Melissa* does not remember exactly when she experienced domestic violence for the first time; she was probably around eight years old. She is afraid of further beatings from her mother, but does not dare to get help. At some point she can't take it anymore. She runs away and builds a whole new life for herself. But Melissa still keeps in touch with her family - even though her parents know next to nothing about her new life. Melissa tells us her story of helplessness and despair, of beatings and fear. A story in which home sometimes means love and closeness - but time and again also becomes a danger. *Name changed, voice changed in the film/podcast You can find all the films on the question "Do we have to love our parents?" in our YouTube playlist: • Do we have to love our parents? If you are in a similar situation to Melissa or know someone, you can find contact points here: ➡️ Child Protection Association: www.dksb.de/de/startseite/ ➡️ Your local youth welfare office: www.jugendaemter.com/jugendaemter-in-deutschland/ ➡️ Number against grief: Individual advice lines for parents (0800 111 0 550) and for children and young people (116 111) If you would like to tell your own story in the podcast, please write to us on Insta or contact us via voice message on 0174 2745065. This film is for educational purposes. If you want to find out more about Frank - here is his Instagram account: / f_cybert Reporter: Frank Seibert Author: Amelie Hörger Camera: Robert Stöger Editing: Robert Stöger Community: Jan Rothe, Mira Schrems, Antonia Dengler, Kim Stoppert Editor: Teresa Fries Chapters: 00:00 Welcome 01:39 This is how my mother became violent 03:46 I just wanted to be loved by my mother 05:20 This is what happens to the psyche of violent parents 07:58 I was supposed to hide my mother's violence 11:47 This is what happened after I ran away from home 20:14 This is how others reacted to my parents' violence 25:40 My refuge: the youth welfare office 27:00 I slipped into drug addiction 30:40 Violent parents: today I lead a double life 34:40 Cross-generational trauma can be stopped 40:04 We recommend these podcasts and films to you This is #TheQuestion: There are these big, tricky questions that have no easy answers: Why do we bully? Why do we let animals suffer? Do we drink too much? Or: What does porn do to us? Our team and we are interested in questions that have something directly to do with our lives, but also topics that are important to all of us and are often only discussed superficially. We look for answers to these questions, week after week - openly, honestly and independently. To do this, we do not meet experts, but are there: at the slaughterhouse, at the swinger party, while proselytizing in the pedestrian zone. And because we want to get to know as many perspectives as possible in our search, a question always occupies us for several weeks. In the end, we want to give an answer, even if that is not easy for us. With each video - but especially in the discussions with you - we come a little closer to an answer to the big, tricky questions. The question on Facebook: / diefrage The question on Instagram: / diefrage_offiziell The question on TikTok: / diefrage_offiziell The question as a podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7Dg1kag... Our netiquette: https://www.funk.net/netiquette ──────────────────────────── YEAH! We are also part of #funk. Check it out: YouTube: / funkofficial Instagram: / funk TikTok: / funk Website: https://go.funk.net https://go.funk.net/impressum funk is a joint offering of the Association of Broadcasting Corporations of the Federal Republic of Germany (ARD) and the Second German Television (ZDF).