Raising children is a difficult task, and no one has the right to judge other people's methods. However, some parental mistakes are more dangerous than others and can seriously harm a child's health. In this video, we will help you understand what affects a child's psyche and teach those who were unlucky with toxic parents what to do in such a situation. Children of narcissistic parents suffer from delayed emotional development, or even its absence, most often they experience depression, anxiety or post-traumatic stress syndrome. Having grown up, they turn into people who are either self-destructive or ready to sacrifice anything for a higher goal. Children of toxic parents live in constant fear and anxiety. They grow up into teenagers who are forced to listen to their parents' complaints, put themselves in their place, help, endure and comfort them, get used to the "difficult situation". Toxic parents may not see anything wrong with telling all relatives, neighbors and friends the deeply personal information that they have “beaten” out of their children. Such parents cultivate an inferiority complex in their children because they do not want to let their child try new things and succeed. Narcissism and self-love make them afraid of the idea that their child can become better, smarter and more successful than they are. Such parents “generously” offer their children what they absolutely do not need, and respond to any refusal with resentment. Already an adult child thinks: “My parents just need company, it is important for them to be important.” And he accepts the help, thanks his parents and offers something in return. But this story will not have a happy ending: parents will henceforth constantly remind their children of the “favor” they have rendered. Music: https://www.youtube.com/audiolibrary/... TIMESTAMPS: The Effect of Toxic Parents on Children 0:53 Qualities of Toxic Parents 10. "Fear me, but love me" 2:00 9. "You have to solve adult problems, but you still have no rights" 2:34 8. "Be the best, but don't forget that you're not special" 3:14 7. "Open up to me, but don't be surprised when I laugh at you" 3:54 6. "You're a loser, so don't even try to be better" 4:31 5. "You can be successful, but only if it benefits me" 5:27 4. "Do what I say, but if you fail, it's your fault" 6:15 3. "You're a nuisance, but don't leave me alone" 6:39 2. “Accept our help, but don’t take advantage of us” 7:11 1. “Trust me, but I’ll still check all your things” 7:58 How to deal with toxic parents? 8:44 Overview: – Children raised by toxic parents don’t feel loved, heard, or important; they believe that their appearance is more important than their inner world. They don’t feel supported when they try to develop their “I.” – For toxic parents, emotional abuse is synonymous with love and care. – Children of toxic parents most often believe that their father gets drunk to calm down because of their bad behavior. – Even if a child is making much more serious progress than their parents did at their age, all their achievements are taken for granted. – Toxic parents force their children to be sincere and then use the child’s personal information against them. – Toxic parents readily discuss their children’s failures and shortcomings. – They love to brag about their children’s successes to make others jealous. In addition, a successful child is a guarantee of a better life for parents. – Parents treat their children like objects: they make all their plans for them and demand complete obedience. – Toxic parents do not want to let their children go. However, they constantly point out that the house, money and food belong to them. – Children become hostages of their parents in any case: if they refuse help, they are ungrateful. And if they accept help, then they will listen to reminders of their “duty” for the rest of their lives. – If a child restricts access to property, parents accuse them of mistrust or even of hiding something immoral or illegal. – You cannot choose your parents, and you cannot change them either. However, you can work on your reaction to their actions. Restrict access to your territory. Choose your own interests, not what your parents offer you. Subscribe to AdMe: http://goo.gl/DgUonf ------------------------------------------------------------------------ 5-Minute Crafts on Youtube: https://www.goo.gl/8JVmuC ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- More cool articles and videos at http://adme.ru/